Have you ever seen the movie “Galaxy Quest?” It’s a comedic, sci fi space romp where the intrepid crew of a spaceship embark on adventures throughout the cosmos. Their commander’s catch phrase is, “Never give up! Never surrender!”
Everyone has something in their life that they would like to change. Some really big goals might include achieving and sustaining weight loss, attaining inner peace, manifesting health, or becoming more successful. We are born to continuously expand our abilities. If you’re serious about making a change, goal setting can help you accomplish this expansion.
When you first set a goal, you are excited. Visions of triumph flourish in your mind as you start a path of change. Each new day brings energy to chase down the most elusive of goals. But what if you’ve been working on manifesting the same dream for years? And one day, despite your optimism, despite the effort of applying the tools of empowerment, you realize that you have not acquired the goal which you set for yourself.
Encountering an obstacle, even a seemingly insurmountable one, doesn’t mean you are on the wrong path. We all experience despair and doubt. Times where we question the worth of what we are trying to do and moments of temptation to give up. Everyone striving to become more than they were before reaches a critical time of choice. Feeling sorry for yourself is not a wrong action. What you might fail to see is the value in this time of despair. This experience of despair is precisely what is necessary for a breakthrough to occur.
The dark experiences of despair are not logical, nor can they be solved intellectually. These moments of darkness mean we have brought ourselves back to the core of what we believe about ourselves. Some of them could be deep painful beliefs we would rather keep hidden from ourselves and from others. The pain of not yet achieving our goals forces us to look at what we believe to be true about ourselves. Limiting beliefs are varied, but can include the following:
- “Something is wrong with me.”
- “I never get what I want.”
- “Who I am is not enough.”
- “I don’t belong.”
When you are undergoing change, the realization you must make is that is it not what faces you that is the problem, but how you are reacting to it. How you react to the situation is based on your inner beliefs about yourself. The despair is felt because you have increased inner conflict. Conflict of what you want to believe versus what you actually believe. This conflict must either be suppressed (by giving up the goal) or the conflict must be resolved (goal is attained or a new belief system becomes integrated.).
It is at this very pressure point, giving up or moving forward, that allows the choice to step into a new belief about yourself or to reinforce an old belief. Just because things seem insurmountable right now, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be following this path. It only means you are face to face with what you believe. And an inner belief system being threatened can result in a variety of symptoms, the most common being negative thoughts, hopelessness, low energy, panic or anxiety, or worrying about small details. To move beyond these feelings, you need to explore your faith or belief in yourself.
Achieving greater faith is an ongoing journey, and not just a one step process. You have many limiting belief systems within that must be faced, accepted, and released. Faith in anything, including yourself, is an infinite and ever expanding experience. There is a passage in Betty Eadie’s book, Awakening the Heart where she describes faith as an ongoing process. First we have knowledge. Then belief. We practice belief over and over again, and eventually faith begins to develop.
Faith in yourself is not something you wake up with one day. It takes going back to the dark places to re-establish faith. Confront those demons of hopelessness, low energy, and worrying. Learn to be kind to your spirit. Help yourself overcome and achieve those elusive goals. In the words of Commander Peter Quincy Taggart: “Never give up! Never surrender!”